Hi Everyone,

It's been a while and I am hoping that you are all well and in good spirits! I wanted to talk about death anniversaries and what we are doing to help us get through Dan's. As you may know, we are coming close to our one year mark. As the weather has warmed up, I am filled with memories of those last days with Dan, a year ago last June. We were relocating to the city, saying goodbye to our beautiful Ardsley home, which was both bittersweet and exciting at the same time. Jessica was going to be finishing high school in Manhattan and so it was definitely the time to move back. Still, it is hard to say goodbye to something as beautiful as the Ardsley home which we had built with love and shared as a family.

When Dan got into his own apartment for the first time, he seemed excited with the prospects of having his own place, while still working with his father and brother. Although Dan had always been a loose cannon, we were not prepared to find him dead in his bed on that day of July 1, 2008. He had been so happy that last day of his life, moving furniture into his new place and setting himself up. But, then you never know.

Now that we are approaching the anniversary of that dreaded day, we gave some thought about what to do and then Jerry came up with this idea which I feel is the best thing that we can do, or that any of you can do, when those times come. We are asking everyone to please observe a minute of silence on July 1, 2009 if possible at 3PM, and during that time to send Dan thoughts of love!

I believe that this is the best thing we can do because I have reason to believe that this helps them very much on that side! Everyday from the day Dan passed I sent out mass emails to everyone in my address book, letting people know that Dan had died and asking them to please send him thoughts of love. Exactly one week after Dan passed, in a session with Glenn Dove, Dan spoke of the "prayer list" that had been activated and how much it helped to lift and support him. He described it as waves of energy that he could feel.

What I love about this is that we can all do this for our kids all the time. Especially on those heavy days that weigh us down so terribly, it is wonderful to be able to do something positive. And as parents, to know that we are doing something that helps our child, HELPS US IMMEASURABLY!

It is occurring to me right now that we ought to all post our kids names and the dates of their births and their passing. This way we can set up calendars for our group. Actually there is a lot we can do to help our kids and each other. I suggest that each of you post both the birth and passing dates of your children. Anyone who will, purchase a small calendar to start filling in these names and dates. I'm getting the thumbs up feeling from Danny that this is a good thing for all of us on both sides.

Let me hear from you. I always say that we are stronger together.

With love and blessings,
Sheri